Learning to Say No

Discerning for What Works Best for You Now

There are decisions that can take seconds to make while others need weeks of consideration. Finding out what works best for you is an ongoing and adaptable process. We want is best, we do not want to miss out, we do not want to make the wrong decision. Yet at the end of the day, a decision has to be made. What will you decide?

In our fast-paced culture, where decisions are made with a swipe, I was struck by this. I tend to mull over my decisions. I thought this one would be tricky. But a quick chat with a friend and a review of the situation, lead to a good decision. I was afraid that I was going to miss out. And I am sure we all have that fear sometimes. But a missed opportunity should not be a factor in making the best choice for you now.

A prospective trip that I may not afford now, is not the best for me coming into the new year. But a whole year to grow and saving up for this annual event now could be. Being honest with yourself and realistic with your situation is not a bad thing. It can complement your resources with your priorities. And since these factors are always changing, you are constantly adapting your decisions.

People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.
— George Bernard Shaw

Turn Missed Opportunities Into New Opportunities

I believe anyone can change their circumstance with the right mindset. I can understand that everyone comes from different circumstances and situations, but if you want to change, you can make it work. I believe in the human spirit that overcomes anything.

Missing out on something now does not mean it may never come back around again, at a better time for you. And if it passes, what is stopping you from recreating that opportunity for yourself? I think making decisions are important. We have ways that help us answer those relevant questions: family, parents, friends, mentors, coworkers, Google, etc.

But the greatest voice to consider is yourself, because whatever the outcome, it will be your responsibility. If you can handle those outcomes, whatever they may be, then then say yes. But if it is still unclear, the circumstance is not best for you, remember, it is okay to say no. ■

Patricia Atienza